Limit The Influence That Others Have On Your Mindset

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Friends and family are great. In fact, they can often be one of your best assets, and they are there to help you with their advice and wisdom as you face challenges in your life.

But, are they really giving you solid examples to live by?

One of the biggest mistakes that you can make in your life is to let other people lead you away from what you really want, and often your close friends and family will be the biggest struggle that you will face.

However, that doesn’t mean that they are out to get you, or that they don’t want you to be happy. They simply might have a different view on what it means to live that way.

Sometimes, other people will see the choices that you are making, and think that you are going down the wrong path. Their own fears, failures, and missed opportunities will cause them to give out bad advice, although well meaning.

When this happens, it can be really difficult to face. How do you tell them how you feel, without upsetting them, especially when they¬† are set in their ways and don’t seem to care if they hurt your feelings in the process?

Stand Your Ground

Once you make a choice in your life, stand firm with your beliefs. Don’t let them tell you that it can’t be done, or that you are stupid for following your dreams. Often, I find that people with this kind of attitude failed to live their own dreams, and want to drag you down into their own level of misery.

I recently had a client come to me wanting to know how they could get their parents off their back. They were trying to build their business,and although it was beginning to show signs of promise, this person’s parents were pushing them to give up, get a job, and go out looking to live a life of misery and lack.

When you are in this kind of situation, you don’t want to step on their toes, but you need to balance compassion with being firm and steadfast.

I know I struggled with this some myself as I started my own business. Don’t think that they will suddenly change their mind once you get it going either. Most of the time, even when you show them you are making more money than they ever did, they will continue to tell you that you have to give it up, for no other reason than because they have the mentality that you have to have a job (making someone else rich) in order to have stability.

This Can Be True In Every Area Of Your Life

This could be happening because of your choice of a career, how you take care of yourself, or who you choose to date. Whatever area of your life you are working on, you need to be true to yourself first.

Analyze what they are saying, and see if it has merit. Look beyond the emotions they are displaying and look at WHY they are telling you what they do. Sometimes they may be telling¬† you something that you don’t want to hear but has some valid merit in your situation.

Once you analyze it, if you still don’t see that it has merit, be willing to stand your ground. Continue working to make your relationships work as best you can, but focus on your priorities and don’t let others keep you from following your dreams. They may be trying to lead you down a path that goes in a different direction than you want to go.

How do you handle it when people in your life try to distract you from living your dreams? leave a comment and share your experiences below!

About James Pruitt

James Pruitt is an author, blogger, and speaker in the areas of personal balance, personal growth, and creating inner peace. He has studied and worked with people since 1994 in the areas of spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical balance and healing. Check out more at


  1. 15 April 12, 4:38pm

    When people give me advice, I smile and say thank you. I also give them an update on my progress so they can have an idea of where I am and where they think I should be. And depending on the person, I tend to limit future conversations about my ventures.

    • James Pruitt
      25 April 12, 12:11pm

      Thanks for your comment Marcie. That is probably the best way to handle it. I used to get pissed off when people did that,but I realized that all the anger and destructive actions was just hurting me, and not the people I was mad at for the way they treated me.

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