Why the Law of Attraction Doesn’t Work For Most People

Ever since I started studying spirituality in the mid 90’s, I have read, studied, practiced and meditated a lot on this phenomenon now called the Law of Attraction.

However, as I have studied and worked with other people, I find a lot of disconnect between what is being taught about the Law of Attraction, and how it really works. After all, if all you have to do is just think about what you want, and it comes flowing to you, everyone would have everything they ever wanted, and nothing bad would ever happen.

However, even if you do what all the Gurus teach, sometimes things that aren’t what you want come your way.

I have thought about that a lot over the last 20 years, and it became really apparent that there had to be more to it about 31/2 years ago when I found out about my daughters rare brain malformation.

I didn’t ask for that! In fact, I had never even heard of Holoprosencephaly before, so I never even considered it a possibility.

So, how does this Law of Attraction Really Work?

As I have reflected on my own journey, I do believe the Law of Attraction really does exist, and it really does work. However, it doesn’t exactly work as easily as most people teach. Also, there are some fundamental issues that I don’t really see anyone teaching that are essential to understand before you can fully see the Law of Attraction working in your own life.

First ofa ll, it’s easy to say “that was the law of Attraction” when you see something that you focussed on coming into your life. Just for example, a few years ago, I really needed a better car. My old car was falling apart and really wasn’t big enough to handle my growing family. But, at the time, I didn’t have a steady income, and my means were meager to say the least. I had no idea how I was going to come up with a car.

But, I decided to “attract” a car, so I started focusing on it, meditating on it, visualizing, and putting intense emotional energy into bringing a newer vehicle into my life. I completely let go of “HOW” it would happen and just focused on allowing it to happen any way it could.

Along the way, a family member called me up and had a car they were looking for a home for, and thought of me. My wife and I jumped on it and knew we had attracted this car into our life at just the right time, with our daughter just a few weeks away.

The Law of Attraction Isn’t Always About Getting What YOU Want!

However, some of the best things I have attracted into my life, I never thought about, and on the surfaced seemed more like a curse than a blessing. Often, the best things in your life come that way, I have found.

In fact, thinking that the Law of Attraction is about getting materialistic things or always having life go your way is an idea that comes from being centered in EGO thinking.

It isn’t about what getting what you want, it is about getting what you NEED!

Over the last few years, I have decided I NEEDED my daughter to be disabled. Not that I would wish this on anyone, but it has been one of the best and most humbling experiences I have ever had.

It has helped me to find direction, focus, passion, and alignment with the life I was born to live, on levels I never thought possible.

What Do YOU Need?

SO, one of the first things that you have to realize about the Law of Attraction is that it doesn’t always give you what you want. However, I have always found that I always get exactly what I need, even if it isn’t what I think I want at the time.

When you find alignment with what you need in your life, the universe will go out of it’s way to bring it to you. Sometimes though, the best opportunities for getting what you need come disguised as chaos, distractions, and disruption. Learning to accept what is, and focus on what you can control really helps with this.

Law of Attraction Requires Allignment


Although you can occassionally get results without it, in order to fully harness the power of the Law of Attraction in your personal life, you have to find alignment with your life’s purpose. I am not going into that in this article, but basically we all have a reason that we were born and had the circumstances and events that have happened in our lives. That doesn’t mean to blame or say you deserve every bad thing that happened to you. It means that those things were there for a reason.

Maybe it was to help you learn something, or so that you could have the ability to help others dealing with the same issues. Until you move out of the situation, and find alignment with your life’s purpose, it will seem like just another tragic event in your life.

When I started realizing this, I was able to look back on my childhood abuse, my struggles emotionally, financially, spiritually, and with my health over the last few years and realized they were all necessary experiences that I needed in order to do the work I am now doing.

Through Pain Comes POWER!

The Law of Attraction sometimes brings us painful experiences. Once we learn the lesson these experiences are there to teach us, we then have POWER to help others and empower people through those experiences.

When you align with your purpose, you will find the painful experiences are easier to bear, and quicker to learn from moving you forward at an accelerated rate. One of my friend’s and mentors calls this Super High Intensity Training mode, and when you start finding that alignment, you will find yourself more and more in that mode of growth.

The Law of Attraction Works Underneath the Surface

The final area of the Law of Attraction is to realize it isn’t about just consious thinking. In fact, most of the law of attraction is about subconscious thinking. Below your conscious thoughts, you have a whole world of ideas, values, and beliefs that guide what you really attract into your life.

I have often said your focus determines your reality, but it isn’t just your conscious focus.  Your subconscious beliefs, values, and opinions determine what you think and feel about the situations and conditions that you face in your life.

When you start working with the Law of Attraction, you have to get alignment with your subconsious mind and your  spiritual mind. As you reprogram your subconscious mind, you will find it easier and easier to utilize the Law of Attraction, and to see that everything that you have already attracted into your life is there to help you with your journey.


About James Pruitt

James Pruitt is an author, blogger, and speaker in the areas of personal balance, personal growth, and creating inner peace. He has studied and worked with people since 1994 in the areas of spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical balance and healing. Check out more at www.jamesmpruitt.com/about

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